Thank you for the response and thank you for spelling my name correctly--I appreciate that! I agree that the state needs to punish serious offenses, I do wonder about how we might shift our way of thinking about that according to the way that there's been a shift in parenting--away from trying to control children through shame and instead trying to maintain a positive relationship and support the child's sense of identity as worthy of love, while also restraining problematic behaviors ... And don't worry about not replying, I wouldn't consider that rude even if you weren't on vacation.